To say this has been a difficult year is an understatement. I love teaching, but I was moved to 8th grade. I had some of these students last year, but the whole grade is known for their crazy stunts. In my 14 years of teaching, I have never seen a group that I couldn't trust like this group. That being said, there are a LOT of great students that get overlooked. My coworker gave me this book "Love and Logic." She said this book has changed the way she teaches and looks at life. I have read one book and am on the second book. It is eye opening.
At my school, we are suppose to all have the same rules and consequences. Which does not work. Love and Logic is against this concept. Teachers are individual and so very different. What one teacher thinks is horrible behavior - another teacher could think that's not so bad. So when the students are not punished the same, the teachers kinda get mad at each other. Love and Logic believes that" misbehavior will be handled with natural and logical consequences. Misbehavior will be viewed as an opportunity for individual problem solving and preparation for the real world."
Love and Logic believes in "rules that are few with just a few overriding tenets rather that a list of specific rules. Equal is not always fair. Consequences will be designed to the individual student at that time."
One good point I also found was that if you didn't know what punishment to give at that time - wait and consult other teachers before you give out the punishment. Instead of reacting out of anger, cool down, and get advice from others. I have seen my coworker do this many times. She will say," I'm going to have to punish you for this behavior. I will deal with you later. Try not to worry about it."
I laugh every time. The student is usually speechless. It also gives the student the notion that you should worry about it.
I'm also using this on my own children. My son is an overachiever. He gets very upset over his grades. He is only in 4th grade, but he is in the advance classes. Friday he was having a math test. On the way to school, he was getting more and more upset over this math test. Normally, I would tell him - you have a math test every Friday. You will survive." Mornings are not my best. Ha! This time, I told him - "If he anyone could do this test, he could. He is smart and prepared. If you try your best, and don't get an A - that's ok. I will not be mad."
I am also going to be giving choices to students and my own children. I can't wait to see how the rest of my year goes. I am so excited to try this out - especially with "certain" students.